No man is hurt but by himself. ...Literally by how he interprets what happens to him. If he focusses on how it could have been better, he will be hurt. If he focusses on how it could have been worse, he will be happy. The same is true for women too.
DiogenesIf you are to be kept right, you must possess either good friends or red-hot enemies. The one will warn you, the other will expose you.
Diogenes