I wouldn't say that I've had a tough life by any stretch of the imagination.
If I were to do this over I'd play a lot more shows before I made a record
A real foolproof way to do it is play your stuff by hook or by crook and build up a grass roots following
Things come to me pretty regularly. There is never a shortage or a backlog
But really important, perhaps most important is the craft; how you make your record, the creation of these sonic worlds you want your listener to hear.
My first two records were more energetic; Phantom Moon is subtle, quiet; so these various reactions are just something I expected