One thing that has helped me personally in the past was to stop interfering with the people around me and getting frustrated when I couldnโt change them. Instead of intrusion and passivity, may I suggest submission? Some people make the mistake of confusing โsubmissionโ with โweaknessโ, whereas it is anything but. Submission is a form of peaceful acceptance of the terms of the universe, including the things we are currently unable to change or comprehend.
Elif SafakPerhaps this is why lunatics have a harder time dating, not because they are off the wall but because it is hard to find soemone who is willing to date so many people in one person.
Elif SafakWe cannot abandon this rabbit hole for fear of a traumatic encounter with our own culture.
Elif SafakWays of loving from a distance, mating without even touching-Amor platonicus! The ladder of love one is expected to climb higher and higher, elating the Self and the Other. Plato clearly regards any actual physical contact as corrupt and ignoble because he thinks the true goal of Eros is beauty. Is there no beauty in sex? Not according to Plato. He is after `more sublime pursuits.' But if you ask me, I think Plato's problem, like those of many others, was that he never got splendidly laid.
Elif Safak