What I object to is the hyper-fetishized wedding day, the prioritizing of wedding over marriage. I have a real problem with couples spending far more time discussing the seating arrangement or the color of the bridesmaid's gowns than hashing out, for instance, their feelings about how they intend to handle questions of housework, child-rearing, finances and fidelity for the next four or five decades.
Elizabeth GilbertMarriage is - among other things - a study in contradiction and disappointment, and inside that reality there is space for us to truly learn how to love.
Elizabeth GilbertDestiny, I feel, is also a relationship - a play between divine grace and willful self-effort.
Elizabeth Gilbert