We alter and customize the thing every century, every generation, every day - both in the courts and in our own homes. And marriage accepts our modifications gracefully. Marriage adapts, evolves and (in a manner that I find miraculous and kind of inspiring) somehow keeps chugging along.

My husband is not American. He was born in Brazil, where he grew up under a filthy, corrupt dictatorship. In his twenties, he moved to Europe, where he lived for a while under various socialist democracies. He spent a few years on a kibbutz in Israel, living out a utopian experiment in communal existence.

Look for God. Look for God like a man with his head on fire looks for water.

Look - I understand that an unexamined life is not worth living, but do you think I could someday have an unexamined lunch?

Guilt's just your ego's way of tricking you into thinking that you're making moral progress. Don't fall for it, my dear.

It's not enough for me to just hear about something or read about something, I wanna know it in my bones.

As smoking is to the lungs, so is resentment to the soul; even one puff is bad for you.