When we describe what the other person is really like, I suppose we often picture what we want. We look through the prism of our need.

The same people who tell us that smoking doesn't cause cancer are now telling us that advertising cigarettes doesn't cause smoking.

You can fire your secretary, divorce your spouse, abandon your children. But they remain your co-authors forever.

There's a trick to the Graceful Exit. It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, a relationship is over - and to let go. It means leaving what's over without denying its validity or its past importance in our lives.

The truth is that we can overhaul our surroundings, renovate our environment, talk a new game, join a new club, far more easily than we can change the way we respond emotionally. It is easier to change behavior than feelings about that behavior.

We owned what we learned back there; the experience and the growth are grafted into our lives.

We continually want to unmask our heroes as if there were more to be learned from their nakedness than from their choice of clothing.