My relationship with my sister is so central to my life. She's my closest friend, my biggest supporter, and I know she would say the same about me.

you'd do anything to get a soul mate back, right?… I mean, that's the nature of soul mates.

Songs and smells will bring you back to a moment in time more than anything else. It's amazing how much can be conjured with a few notes of a song or a solitary whiff of a room. A song you didn't even pay attention to at the time, a place that you didn't even know had a particular smell. I wonder what will someday bring back Dex and our few months together. Maybe the sound of Dido's voice. Maybe the scent of the Aveda shampoo I've been using all summer.

Throughout the ordeal, I learned that getting mad was easier than being sad. Anger was something I could control. I could settle into an easy rhythm of blame and hate. Focus my energy on something than the ache in my heart.

For true downtime, I enjoy going for light runs, having drinks with friends and going to the movies with my husband.

I have always been drawn to coming-of-age stories and books and movies featuring compelling young characters.

Which always raises the interesting question of whether redheads pursue other redheads in a narcissistic way, or simply, because they have no other choice, as nonredheads aren't interested.