Don't you wish we could pick the people we love?" "Yeah," I say. "Or just make the people we love want the same things we want.

Every couple has two stories - the edited one to be shared from the couch and the unabridged version best left alone.

Sorrow comes with so many defense mechanisms. You have your shock, your denial, your getting wasted, your cracking jokes, and your religion. You also have the old standby catchall—the blind belief in fate, the whole "things happening for a reason" drill.

And then there is our personal history. Memories only we share. Things not another living soul would understand.

I think the most well-adjusted people live in the present with an eye toward the future - I'm not among those.

This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So when the whole thing spills, you aren’t as devastated.

I write about relationships and I try to create real-life characters.