I've never gotten a letter where I thought I knew the person. But I have heard from people who think they know the letter writer.
Emily YoffeI can't imagine anything that would signal more clearly that life goes on and joy can follow tragedy than your having a much wanted child.
Emily YoffeI think it's helpful for kids to know that their parents weren't perfect, that they messed up and learned from their mistakes. So be open about some of your own struggles or express gratitude that your kids are taking advantage of the opportunities they have instead of squandering many of them, the way you did.
Emily YoffeI agree that not responding, and blocking his email, is the way to deal with the man you hope falls silent again.
Emily Yoffe