I'm not suffering from some division of personality.

I have this wonderful capacity just to walk away from my mistakes and not dwell on them.

I counseled a 75-year-old married, bi-sexual man who was having a gay affair and was not having sex with his wife to continue his secret life because that seemed like the kindest thing to do. But a young woman embarking on married life, hoping to start a family with her husband, needs to at least know he's already living a double life.

Insecurity is a toxin and confidence is a tonic, so make the choice not to dwell on the worst possible case.

I agree that not responding, and blocking his email, is the way to deal with the man you hope falls silent again.

People often recommend, "Why do you ask?" as a good conversation stopper. But that really doesn't end the conversation, it just leaves the other person sputtering for a response. I like, "You'll be the first to know.".

I know this is awkward, but when you laugh after almost everything you say, it ends up undermining you.