It is not he who gives abuse that affronts, but the view that we take of it as insulting; so that when one provokes you it is your own opinion which is provoking.
EpictetusSome things are up to us [eph' hรชmin] and some things are not up to us. Our opinions are up to us, and our impulses, desires, aversionsโin short, whatever is our own doing. Our bodies are not up to us, nor are our possessions, our reputations, or our public offices, or, that is, whatever is not our own doing.
Epictetus