What really frightens and dismays us is not external events themselves, but the way in which we think about them. It is not things that disturb us, but our interpretation of their significance.
EpictetusAs a man, casting off worn out garments taketh new ones, so the dweller in the body, entereth into ones that are new.
EpictetusIt is not he who gives abuse that affronts, but the view that we take of it as insulting; so that when one provokes you it is your own opinion which is provoking.
Epictetus