Seek not the good in external things;seek it in yourselves.

Things themselves don't hurt or hinder us. Things simply are what they are. How we view these things is another matter.People think what they will think; it is of no concern to us.

It is not so much what happens to you as how you think about what happens." Epictetus

Try not to react merely in the moment. Pull back from the situation. Take a wider view. Compose yourself.

Wherever I go it will be well with me, for it was well with me here, not on account of the place, but of my judgments which I shall carry away with me, for no one can deprive me of these; on the contrary, they alone are my property, and cannot be taken away, and to possess them suffices me wherever I am or whatever I do.

What disturbs people, these are not things, but the judgments relating to things

He is a drunkard who takes more than three glasses though he be not drunk.