Nothing outside the will can hinder or harm the will; it can only harm itself. If then we accept this, and, when things go amiss, are inclined to blame ourselves, remembering that judgment alone can disturb our peace and constancy, I swear to you by all the gods that we have made progress.
EpictetusDon't seek to have events happen as you wish, but wish them to happen as they do happen, and all will be well with you.
Epictetus