If you hear that someone is speaking ill of you, instead of trying to defend yourself you should say: 'He obviously does not know me very well, since there are so many other faults he could have mentioned.'
EpictetusAs a man, casting off worn out garments taketh new ones, so the dweller in the body, entereth into ones that are new.
EpictetusIf someone speaks badly of you, do not defend yourself against the accusations, but reply; "you obviously don't know about my other vices, otherwise you would have mentioned these as well
Epictetus