Children cannot be fooled by empty praise and condescending encouragement. They may have to accept artificial bolstering of their self-esteem in lieu of something better, but what I call their accruing ego identity gains real strength only from wholehearted and consistent recognition of real accomplishment, that is, achievement that has meaning in their culture.
Erik EriksonThe sense of identity provides the ability to experience one's self as something that has continuity and sameness, and to act accordingly.
Erik EriksonBabies control and bring up their families as much as they are controlled by them; in fact ... the family brings up baby by being brought up by him.
Erik EriksonHealthy children will not fear life if their elders have integrity enough not to fear death.
Erik EriksonIn the evaluation of the dominant moods of any historical period it is important to hold fast to the fact that there are always islands of self-sufficient order — on farms and in castles, in homes, studies, and cloisters — where sensible people manage to live relatively lusty and decent lives: as moral as they must be, as free as they may be, and as masterly as they can be. If we only knew it, this elusive arrangement is happiness.
Erik Erikson