We as women look around for things that we need to pay attention too just in case.

In the black community when we think of a couselor or sitting down with a therapist there is that taboo attached to people of being psychotic and crazy. Really it's not it's just sitting down having a conversation.

A lot of times if you go to counseling you find out the thing we think are big issues to our partner is not near as big as we think it is.

We as women look around for things that we need to pay attention too just in case.

When your trying to be an adult in a relationship you seriously don't need to lie or front and try to put on this big picture or pseud like your something that your not.

Without a plan your kind of just like a dog chasing it's tail, your not getting anywhere.

There's obviously more of us than there is men, so that's why its important that you feel like its someone you want to be with long term. You should make it impossible for a man/woman to want someone else providing all the things within reason.