I think a lot of men just automatically like to lie, because they feel like their protecting a women's feelings.

Honesty is a big deal, and when your honest everything will fall into place.

We as women look around for things that we need to pay attention too just in case.

I don't know if it's still taboo in our culture but counseling is a great thing because sometimes you need someone from the outside to sit down and go over whatever the questions or conflicts are and come to a resolution.

In the black community when we think of a couselor or sitting down with a therapist there is that taboo attached to people of being psychotic and crazy. Really it's not it's just sitting down having a conversation.

Be honest about who you are and what your bringing to the table and what your expectations are.

Without a plan your kind of just like a dog chasing it's tail, your not getting anywhere.