Very few alcoholics get into a treatment program until they are at the end of the rope, often when they feel like they are about to lose something that is important to them, namely a wife or their family. The same is true with those who are physically and verbally abusive.
Gary ChapmanRespect begins with this attitude: "I acknowledge that you are a creature of extreme worth. God has endowed you with certain abilities and emotions. Therefore I respect you as a person. I will not desecrate your worth by making critical remarks about your intellect, your judgment or your logic. I will seek to understand you and grant you the freedom to think differently from the way I think and to experience emotions that I may not experience." Respect means that you give the other person the freedom to be an individual.
Gary ChapmanA child may be "spoiled" by a lack of training or by inappropriate love that gives or trains incorrectly.
Gary ChapmanMuch of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty LOVE TANK.
Gary Chapman