If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, then there is really no hope for you to have a good relationship. That is another myth that we have to throw off, so that we can get into what I call Reality.

This book [Desperate Marriages ] is really a book on how to be a positive change agent in a very, very difficult marriage. I am not promising that all individuals will be responsive to the approach I take, but I do believe that many marriages could be saved... could be healed. That is my hope.

The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday.

Conflicts are not a sign you've married the wrong person. They simply affirm you are human.

We cannot erase the past, but we can accept it as history.

I cannot change others, but I can influence others... we can't change people, but we can and we do influence people, and we do it every single day.

Lack of love from parents often motivates their children to go searching for love in other relationships. This search is often misguided and leads to further disappointment.