When dreaded outcomes are actually imminent we don't worry about themwe take action. Seeing lava from the local volcano make its way down the street toward our house does not cause worry it causes running. Also we don't usually choose imminent events as subjects for our worrying and thus emerges an ironic truth: Often the very fact that you are worrying about something means that it isn't likely to happen.
Gavin de BeckerNiceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.
Gavin de BeckerYou have the gift of a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards and guide you through risky situations.
Gavin de Beckerintuition is always right in at least two important ways; It is always in response to something. it always has your best interest at heart
Gavin de BeckerWe must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning.
Gavin de BeckerWhen a baby is born the mother in particular enters into a new larger relationship with the world. She has become connected to all people. She is part of keeping us on earthnot the "us" comprised of individuals but the species itself. By protecting this one baby this gift a mother accepts life's clearest responsibility.
Gavin de Becker