All who love are conspirators.
Coming out to gays is a way of affirming sanity and self-worth.
And I've known people who came out with a sense of torture.
An essential idea is that if you give to some person or endeavor in life, you will make that more important.
My father was a pedant and a bully who cared about nobody, and I was not to see him until I was eighteen.
As I said, men value their independence in a weird way, above practically everything.