... there is ... a big aspect of play in writing novels, and making the story more and more elaborate is just more and more fun.

It's a matter of whether you see the self as fundamentally in relationship to other selves or not - whether you see the boundary between self and the world as relatively permeable, which makes you "interdependent" (collectivist) in outlook, or relatively impermeable, which makes you "independent" (individualistic).

I'm trying to give people an idea of what black looks like and what white looks like before I introduce them to gray.

These are ideas that work for many, and that may well reflect your true understanding of life.

Many women tend toward the interdependent end of things, we tend to see ourselves in relationship to others to a far greater degree than men.

The independents are the ones who tend to commit suicide. I'm not against this way of being in the world. Individuals have brought us many treasures. You can't just say that's a bad way of being in the world - it's not. But it's not everyone's way of being in the world.

I like to listen. I'm much more interested in listening than in speaking, for sure.