Looking at traditional marriages, it seems the surest way for a woman to be alone is to get married.

When the gender role starts to descend, boys get into the masculine box.

The Internet is an almost miraculous way of getting information, of finding and organizing with each other, both minutely and globally. A million times better than the phone and the mimeograph! Also much better than TV, which is one-way and passive.

What we experience in our childhoods that comes to seem normal, or even inevitable, is that if you are placed in a hierarchy, you probably are immediately anxious about going further down and you're striving to go further up, so your energies get placed into becoming "more than," or at least not becoming "less than," instead of becoming "part of."

Having someone who looks like us but thinks like them is worse than having no one at all.

In retrospect, perhaps the biggest reason my mother was cared for but not helped for twenty years was the simplest: Her functioning was not that necessary to the world.

imagining anything is the first step toward creating it. Believing in a true self is what allows a true self to be born.