Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

We need to hear the sound of our voice for what we think and need.

What initially attracts us and what later becomes 'the problem' are usually one and the same.

Before modern feminism, stories of female ambition were silenced or erased; even now, they are told with apology ("Yes, it's a great honor to be a Nobel Prize laureate, but really, what I love best is staying home and being a mother to Kevin and Annie").

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

Often when someone apologizes - like a parent who says to a child, "I'm very sorry I neglected you when you were a kid" - they also ask, "Do you forgive me?," because they want the other person to be over it. However, healing can take a great deal of time. And if we forgive too quickly, we cut the process short.

The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.