Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

Women are raised to be the nurturers and steadiers of rocked boats, to hold relationships in place as if our lives depended on it. But it shores up your own dignity and integrity if you're able to say, "There are a million things I love about you, and I want our relationship to continue. I forgive you 95 percent, but not this 5 percent."

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

As long as we can feel hope, there is hope.

Every time I open Facebook, I see a post with something like, "We must forgive or be prisoners of our own bitterness and hate." People think that forgiveness is all-or-nothing, but this myth hurts people. You can forgive 10, 97, or 14 percent. Forgiveness is complicated.

If what we are doing with our anger is not achieving the desired result, it would seem logical to try something different.

Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words.