It is the same with anything - you have to learn through your own experience, paying your own way. You can't learn it from a book.
Haruki MurakamiWhat I think is this: You should give up looking for lost cats and start searching for the other half of your shadow.
Haruki MurakamiKids' hearts are malleable, but once they gel it's hard to get them back the way they were.
Haruki MurakamiWhere I went in my travels, it's impossible for me to recall. I remember the sights and sounds and smells clearly enough, but the names of the towns are gone, as well as any sense of the order in which I traveled from place to place.
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