It is the same with anything - you have to learn through your own experience, paying your own way. You can't learn it from a book.
Haruki MurakamiHer smile steps offstage for a moment, then does an encore, all while I'm dealing with my blushing face.
Haruki MurakamiYou end up exhausted and spent, but later, in retrospect, you realize what it all was for. The parts fall into place, and you can see the whole picture and finally understand the role each individual part plays. The dawn comes, the sky grows light, and the colors and shapes of the roofs of houses, which you could only glimpse vaguely before, come into focus.
Haruki MurakamiMy only passions were books and music. As you might guess, I led a lonely lifeโฆ Not that I knew what I wanted in life - I didnโt. I loved reading novels to distraction, but didnโt write well enough to be a novelist; being an editor or a critic was out, too, since my tastes ran to the extremes. Novels should be for pure personal enjoyment, I decided, not part of your work or study. Thatโs why I didnโt study literature
Haruki Murakami