But look within and watch the stuff coming up-restlessness, anxiety, impatience, pain-just watch it come up and don't get involved. Much to your surprise, it will simply go away. It rises, it passes away. As simple as that. There is another word for self-discipline. It is patience.
Henepola GunaratanaWatch the functioning of your own mind in a calm and detached manner so you can gain insight into your own behavior.
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