The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.

Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

When we can't hold back, or set boundaries, on what comes from our lips, our words are in charge-not us. But we are still responsible for those words. Our words do not come from somewhere outside of us, as if we were a ventriloquist's dummy. They are the product of our hearts. Our saying, "I didn't mean that," is probably better translated, "I didn't want you to know I thought that about you." We need to take responsibility for our words. "But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken" (Matt. 12:36).

It is true that you get what you tolerate.

The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!

Things don't change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.

The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.