Things don't change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.

Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.

If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you 'do' boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.

Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.

Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.