To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Don't live that way anymore. Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption. Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship. Suffer long, but suffer in the right way." And when done God's way, chances are much better for redemption.

Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

He is the Truth, and He wants us to deal in truth with ourselves and our loved ones. We want the truth about you and your family to flood into and overrun the secrets that keep you in bondage to dysfunctional behavior and relationships

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as "Taking," you are not getting it.

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.