Play becomes a distraction, something you don't really need to do. It's not for serious people. They work hard, they don't play hard. Yes, you can say play hard, but that really means, keep working hard, right?

This willingness to be frank and plain about the way that the world is, is a good first step. But that doesn't mean that you get what you want.

When we use this word fun, it sort of bangs up the ordinary and the extraordinary altogether.

The idea of thinking of our relationships with people as also being structured by limitations and constraints can be useful.

We have to always spread sugar on top of it in order that we can tolerate swallowing the things we're supposed to do, which is an incredibly depressing way of thinking about living your life. Not just that your work or your home life would be so miserable that you have to slather sugar on it, but then the sugar is all you're tasting. If that's the only way that I'm finding meaning, then we have this sort of mental diabetes that we're descending into.

God will not speak to me and tell me to mow my lawn today.

If you think about the contexts in which we talk about things being fun, often there's a certain kind of misery or effort that's involved with it. The difficulty of travel, getting all your bags packed and your work done and navigating the airports and all that. That sort of struggle.