The actual effort that you can exert upon the universe is fairly limited.

The idea of thinking of our relationships with people as also being structured by limitations and constraints can be useful.

We're used to thinking of fun as a sort of synonym for light pleasure.

Our ideas of happiness, gratification, contentment, satisfaction, all demand that those feelings come from within us. If you flip that on its head and say "What if I took the world at face value?" and then ask "What can I do with what is given?" it's an interesting trick to turn around the whole problem of how you feel.

We have so many choices that it's only always our fault if we're malcontent.

When we think about play and games and the situations in which having fun is seen as an outcome, they often have to do with repetition. You're returning to something again, and even despite that similarity, you squeeze something new out of it.

I think the most important way to understand play is that it's this property that's in things. Like there's play in a mechanism. For example, there's some play in the steering column before it engages as you're turning the wheel.