The idea of thinking of our relationships with people as also being structured by limitations and constraints can be useful.
Ian BogostOur ideas of happiness, gratification, contentment, satisfaction, all demand that those feelings come from within us. If you flip that on its head and say "What if I took the world at face value?" and then ask "What can I do with what is given?" it's an interesting trick to turn around the whole problem of how you feel.
Ian Bogost