The main problem is that most commentators are accustomed to thinking of spiritual schools as 'systems', which are more or less alike, and which depend upon dogma and ritual: and especially upon repetition and the application of continual and standardised pressures upon their followers.The Sufi way, except in degenerate forms which are not to be classified as Sufic, is entirely different from this.
Idries ShahExercise power by means of kindness, and you may be causing more damage than you could by cruelty. Neither approach is correct.
Idries ShahYou need not wonder whether you should have an unreliable person as a friend. An unreliable person is nobody's friend.
Idries ShahHistory is not usually what has happened. History is what some people have thought to be significant.
Idries ShahOne can give or withhold in a manner far more effective, sophisticated, useful, which is quite invisible to people who think that giving or withholding is done by external assessment. If you seek some mark of favour or 'promotion', know that you are not ready for it. Progress comes through capacity to learn, and is irresistible. Nobody can stand between you and knowledge if you are fit for it.
Idries Shah