If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.

The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.

One thing I feel clear about is that it's important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven't really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won't look back upon my forties with regret.

Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.

Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.

It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one's germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!

The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.