Itโs self-full to be first, to be as good as possible to you. To take care of you, keep you whole and healthy. That doesnโt mean you disregard everything and everyone. But you want to come with your cup full. You know: โMy cup runneth over.โ What comes out of the cup is for yโall. Whatโs in the cup is mine. But Iโve got to keep my cup full.
Iyanla VanzantWe all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.
Iyanla VanzantI'm focusing on healing lives and teaching people that they can heal - giving them tools to heal.
Iyanla VanzantYou cannot get to where you are going until you have learned all there is to learn about where you are.
Iyanla VanzantThe only relationship we can have in this life is the relationship we have with ourselves. We cannot love anybody more than we love ourselves. We cannot treat anyone any better than we treat ourselves. When you forget you, give up on you, or devalue yourself, anyone coming into your life has a universal responsibility to follow your lead.
Iyanla VanzantYou have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid 'no' muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it's our choice. Your 'no' muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, 'I don't care if that's what you want. I don't want that. No.'
Iyanla Vanzant