The only relationship we can have in this life is the relationship we have with ourselves. We cannot love anybody more than we love ourselves. We cannot treat anyone any better than we treat ourselves. When you forget you, give up on you, or devalue yourself, anyone coming into your life has a universal responsibility to follow your lead.
Iyanla VanzantIf you don't enjoy your life, sorrow, sadness, suffering, fear, shame and guilt will.
Iyanla VanzantI hope that my story, I hope that my life is... an encouragement for people, especially in Brooklyn. I feel humbled and blessed.
Iyanla VanzantWe set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with ourselves.
Iyanla VanzantIn all relationships, regardless of their nature, there comes that moment when you understand that there are some things you will never understand. When you are standing in that moment, just be right with it.
Iyanla VanzantThe event is not what you should be working on. You should be working on your response or reaction to an event. You either react to it - that means you become victimized, and you say this thing is happening to you - or you respond to it and say the solution must come through you - that's where you stay focused, not on the rightness, wrongness, fairness of the event, but on the appropriateness of your response.
Iyanla Vanzant