Forgiveness does not mean that we have to continue to relate to those who have done us harm. In some cases the best practice may be to end our connection, to never speak to or be with a harmful person again. Sometimes in the process of forgiveness a person who hurts or betrayed us may wish to make amends, but even this does not require us to put ourselves in the way of further harm.
Jack KornfieldIn deep self-acceptance grows a compassionate understanding. As one Zen master said when I asked if he ever gets angry, 'Of course I get angry, but then a few minutes later I say to myself, 'What's the use of this,' and I let it go.'
Jack KornfieldThe near enemy of love is attachment. Attachment masquerades as love. It says, โI will love this person because I need them.โ Or, โIโll love you if youโll love me back. Iโll love you, but only if you will be the way I want.โ This isnโt love at all - it is attachment - and attachment is rigid, it is very different from love.
Jack Kornfield