The building of friendship, family, community and love is complicated. We are so isolated in this country, no longer supported by tribes and villages.

I don't much care who is gay or straight or married or not. I mostly notice if they are brave enough to confront bigotry.

The state and the church seldom approve of anything I do. I don't need their approval. I don't aspire to the heterosexual nuclear family model

I am very sad for men and women trapped in any relationship where there is cruelty, dominance, inequity. I long for the liberation of all people.

The kitchen may not get cleaned, and I have to accept that. I do the important things.

Bigotry and judgment are the height of insecurity.

If one is desperate for love, I suggest looking at one's friends and family and see if love is all around. If not, get a new set of friends, a new family.