We like to look for patterns and find connections in unrelated events. This way we can explain them to ourselves. Life seems neater, or at least less messy. We need to feel we are in control: it is integral to our self-esteem. We also know, though we deny it, that we are not in control. So we settle for the illusions of control. What if we stopped fooling ourselves?

In relationships it is best to assume nothing.

The reason producers make stupid movies is because there are stupid people who will pay to see them.

Life is a series of random collisions.

We have no control over fate and history, but we can control how we conduct ourselves in this life.

Whining is a form of manipulation. People will give anything to make you shut up.

You can not make someone love you. You can not be thin enough or white enough or famous enough. The choice is entirely the other person's. Then again, you might try hypnosis.