cookbooks, I found, are intended for people with time to cook - and, surprisingly often, for people who already know how to cook.

In order to plan your future wisely, it is necessary that you understand and appreciate your past.

Many people, if they were to treat other people as they treat their spouses, would soon have not a friend in the world. Why it is assumed that marriage is more impervious to the effects of discourtesy than friendship, I do not know.

Self-affirmation cannot be found in love; it is a prior condition of genuine love.

One does not marry to become a judge of the spouse's behavior. If a marriage license is mistaken for a hunting license and disapproval, punishment, and threat of withdrawal of love are employed as weapons, all one bags is one's own unhappiness.

I saw one of the absolute truths of this world: each person is worrying about himself; no one is worrying about you. He or she is worrying about whether you like him, not whether he likes you. He is worrying about whether he looks prepossessing, not whether you are dressed correctly. He is worrying about whether he appears poised, not whether you are. He is worrying about whether you think well of him, not whether he thinks well of you. The way to be yourself ... is to forget yourself.

It is one of those quirks of human nature that you love the person whom you treat well, not necessarily the person who treats you well.