The #1 reasons are unsuccessful is their inability to lead themselves.
You can know you're a Christian if, not are you dealing with your sin before God but is God dealing with you about your sin.
When a person is carrying their sin, it can be quite a load...I don't know what else to do with your sin but confess and ask God to forgive it.
My own heart has to be under constant check by Jesus.
The emotional people...You tap into people's hearts.
Sin is too big to be handled alone.