If your lives connect with other people you have influence.
My own heart has to be under constant check by Jesus.
You can't lead people you don't believe in.
You can't compartmentalize unforgiveness. You can't control sin. You can't manage sin. Sin is never satisfied with the amount of you it possesses.
Don't try to transport something you don't possess...I want this truth to be incarnational.
Some people you speak to you speak into their heads. It's logical.