The only way I see an out is for you to take full responsibility.
Everyone of you got to where you are because someone influenced you.
Pastors spend a good bit of time helping people with their sin. Who helps them with their sin?
It's not just a song I sing with my hand raised but also with a billfold I've laid.
You can't compartmentalize unforgiveness. You can't control sin. You can't manage sin. Sin is never satisfied with the amount of you it possesses.
Some people are into position, not the mission.