Influence is about being genuine.
When a person is carrying their sin, it can be quite a load...I don't know what else to do with your sin but confess and ask God to forgive it.
When people get drunk they do things they shouldn't do.
The only way I see an out is for you to take full responsibility.
Some people you speak to you speak into their heads. It's logical.
When a person gets right with God, my eyes are upward...I'm poor in spirit. I'm spiritually bankrupt.