Happiness doesn't come from getting what you want. It doesn't come from within, either. Happiness comes from *between*--from finding the right relationship between yourself and others, between yourself and your work, and between yourself and something larger than yourself.
Jonathan HaidtMost of our social nature is like that of other primates - we're mostly out for ourselves.
Jonathan HaidtIf you think that moral reasoning is something we do to figure out the truth, youโll be constantly frustrated by how foolish, biased, and illogical people become when they disagree with you.
Jonathan HaidtThe social intuitionist model offers an explanation of why moral and political arguments are so frustrating: because moral reasons are the tail wagged by the intuitive dog. A dogโs tail wags to communicate. You canโt make a dog happy by forcibly wagging its tail. And you canโt change peopleโs minds by utterly refuting their arguments.
Jonathan Haidt