For memory is a moral action, a choice. You can choose to remember. You can choose not.
Joyce Carol OatesWhat you call your personality, you know? --it's not like actual bones, or teeth, something solid. It's more like a flame. A flame can be upright, and a flame can flicker in the wind, a flame can be extinguished so there's no sign of it, like it had never been.
Joyce Carol Oates