Grace is God-given power to live differently.
But difficult situations and wrong choices conspire to trap us in hopelessness.
It is absolutely essential to have a living visible example of what a Christian ought to be.
Make rules and follow rules as needed, but don't focus on riles. Focus on faith. Focus on grace. Focus on Jesus.
Responsibility is good for your soul
God's love is so extravagant and so inexplicable that he loved us before we were us. He loved us before we existed. He knew many of us would reject him, hate him, curse him, rebel against him. Yet he chose to love us. God loves us because he is love.