The art of communicating is to speak with a non judging sensitivity and mean it rather than impulsively verbalizing whatever feelings arise; there's no better way to make a point.
Another reality is a whisper away.
When you have no idea how to surrender and you're tied up in knots, JUST BREATHE!
Don't try to control what's outside. Be at peace with what's inside.
Beyond surfaces, you must be intuitively at ease.
Surrender is a positive, healthy state. Being a surrendered person does not mean one is beaten down and so hopeless he or she has "given up." It's quite the contrary.