Suffering is not a prerequisite for happiness.

We learn to face the reality and the pain of our loss, to say good-bye to the dead loved one, to restore ourselves, and to reinvest in life once again.

Our misconception is in imagining that our suffering or how intensely or how long we grieve is a measure of how much we loved. In truth, none of us would want another's grief as a testimonial of their love for us. More likely we would want our loved ones to live healthy, fulfilled lives without us.

Appreciate life instead of resisting it.

Grief is a wound that needs attention in order to heal.

Although our love never dies, the pain of our loss can eventually dissolve.

Though we may not always be able to avoid pain, we can choose how much we suffer.